She also reveals that Arenas spends around 6,500 dollars a month to take care of his pet sharks. I mean come on... Is that really so unreasonable? I do that too. Am I supposed to be embarrassed or something?
The notes -- which appear to be her version of their life together -- reveal lots of details about their relationship. Arenas, 29, and Govan, 31, first met in 2002, when she was coaching basketball at a Golden State Warriors camp. In addition to their three young children (the fourth is due in June), they went through other pregnancies that ended in miscarriages. Along the way, there were lots of break-ups and make-ups.
Some of the meeting notes confirm what Arenas himself shared on his popular, now-defunct blog: "I've done kicked her out of my house almost every weekend, yet she's still here and she still believes in me," he wrote in 2008 in a post describing his marriage proposal to her. The notes tell an almost identical story: "The reason he proposed to her is that he put her out of the house every other weekend since they met and she stays with him, so something must be working."
There's a lot about how Arenas spent his money, based on her understanding of the household finances: "he states he makes 1.5 million per month," read the notes. Arenas lavished plenty on their Great Falls home, dropping $100,000 on landscaping, $5,000 a month for housekeepers, $675 "per car" washing, and $1 million for his backyard pool and grotto. His sharks are expensive: $5,000 a month to feed them and $1,500 for a keeper to drive from Columbus to take care of them. And yet they never had a nanny, Govan complains, according to the notes: "he would state 'you had them you watch them.' "
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He was extravagant when it came to toys for the children -- ages 5, 4 and 2 -- buying a $60,000 train set and an $8,000 toy Mercedes-Benz electric car, and dropping between $30,000 and $40,000 during a shopping spree at FAO Schwartz. (Arenas also told this story on the blog, but didn't divulge the amount of money spent.)
The notes say Arenas gave Govan $8,000 a month for expenses; more than half went to pay the mortgage on a home she owns in California, and the rest went for groceries ($500-$600 a week from Peapod), doctors, classes and other expenses for the children. (source)
Oy. If these notes were supposed to make me sympathize with her.... They don't. If you ask me, these two deserve each other. Sooo many problems here. First of all, to say that he kicked her out of his house every other weekend and she kept coming back so, "Something must be working," really doesn't sit well with me. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result... So it appears that they're both insane. Second of all, I personally don't think I'd have three kids with someone I wasn't married to, and who was kicking me out of their house every other weekend. Maybe that's just me. And lastly, he was halfway right about the nanny. He allegedly told her she had the kids, so she needed to watch them... But really, they had the kids- so both of them need to watch them. That does not necessarily mean a nanny. Believe it or not, millions of people around the world have three kids and find a way without a nanny. I think her problems are bigger than the fact that she has to watch her own kids. I don't mean to be insensitive, because this is a crappy, sad situation, and I'm sure it's hard for her... But come on.